There are no two partners who do not experience moments of disagreement and clashing opinions, and this is a normal thing in people’s lives that is not surprising, because they differ in their intellectual, psychological and educational levels, and the marital relationship is not isolated from that fact, as the spouses participate in building the marital nest. The differences and disagreements that occur, which may sometimes lead to quarrels and anger, are only a picture that expresses the difference in nature and personalities!

They must be aware of the fact that there is such disparity and difference in their personalities, no matter how keen they are to maintain compatibility and harmony between them. It is beautiful and wonderful for their relationship to be tinged with harmony, but denying the existence of psychological, intellectual, and personal disparity ends up interpreting the difference between them as an insult and a reason for interruption!

They must also understand the necessity of accepting and embracing the concepts, faculties, morals, and customs that their partner carries... and not excluding them from the center of decision-making and dialogue. Exclusivity and domination are the destruction of the family and the fuse of disintegration that ignites the fires of quarrels in a way that is inherent in the course of the marital relationship so that it becomes hell that may end the family entity.

In order for the spouses to treat their relationship after every case of disagreement and quarrel, they must determine the appropriate ointment to treat each case until the bonds return to their proper state of serenity, harmony and well-being.

Here are four ointments that treat cases of disagreement between spouses, and the bad effects that follow:

Ointment for infections: This ointment should be used after every minor disagreement, and not neglect your partner except after sweetening their mind with beautiful phrases and kind words that confirm respect for their personality, such as saying, for example: (I hope I have not disrespected you), (I hope I have not disturbed you.), (Do not blame me if I seem harsh in expressing my opinion), (My style was harsh in stating my point of view), (Forgive me because I was not understanding of your point of view)

Wound ointment: This ointment is for quarrels in which the dispute between spouses escalates to the point where one or both of them hurt the other’s feelings with harsh and aggressive words. Perhaps the words “I’m sorry” or “I apologize” do not heal those wounds and do not comfort the mind of the wounded! It is necessary to have an effective ointment and a beneficial treatment, and to take steps gradually to soothe the partner’s feelings:

First: Choose the appropriate opportunity after the nerves have calmed, and show your remorse, acknowledge the cruelty of your method and your transgression, and apologize in a way that you expect will satisfy the other person and restore his respect.

Second: Punish yourself in accordance with legal controls or what is known among society as a fair retaliation that makes your partner feel sincere remorse and desire to apologize from you.

Third: Choose an occasion to surprise your partner with gifts or a family party in which they regain their self-esteem and prove your love and respect for them.

Ointment for relationship congestion: This ointment should be used by spouses when quarrels accumulate and disagreements are repeated, so they become reluctant to deal with the negative psychological effects that quarrels leave behind between them, such as feelings of disharmony, and dealing with formality and apathy. They may migrate to the point that they may sleep isolated, and they may not meet together at night. Dining Table! A quarrel often breaks out between them for the most trivial reasons, and it is one of the most severe cases of disagreement between spouses. Because of their neglect to address their relationship after every disagreement and quarrel, to the point that the relationship becomes festering and swollen, and the atmosphere is always turbulent in the house. Perhaps the effective and realistic ointment is openness and a healthy explosion, for the spouses to decide to open up and disclose what they feel. Each one of them faces the other, and each one of them speak what is inside them, and do not leave anything big or small without saying it, and beware of broadcasting that to anyone other than your partner! The other party must accept and allow his partner to express everything that bothered him and listen carefully to all the reproaches and complaints he expresses as a first stage. He, too, should reciprocate it if the situation is appropriate, or postpone his role until after his partner’s nerves and ability have calmed down.

An ointment to beautify and decorate bonds: This ointment is an expression of words of love, courtship, a warm look, and moral and material stimulation, which the spouses must exchange to treat emotional rifts when they are busy with their family and professional lives, which make them spend their time taking care of children or work, so they must use this Ointment daily for maintenance To maintain the emotional state, to nourish psychological bonds with love, affection, and compassion, and to confirm feelings of appreciation, care, and respect between them.