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When I was sixteen I decided to go to a forestry school, and I was accepted there, and when I was about to start I suddenly announced that I wanted to study art instead, and what a change! My mother must have had a different opinion on this matter, but she kept it to herself and supported me in my decision, and I still do not know which of the two options she preferred for me (if she preferred either of them in the first place).
Of course, you will have a say in the choices your child makes as long as you have his best interests at heart; You worry about whether the subject he has chosen will be too difficult for him, or whether he will regret missing out on Spanish, or whether he will choose physics only because he admires its teacher. But you can't do anything about it. You can help your child (calmly and without imposing any pressure or explaining what you prefer) to choose the best thing for him, and then you have to support him in his decision, even if you doubt that it is the right choice.
Ask yourself some questions, what will happen if your son does not adopt the option that you see as sound? Do I want him to make this choice for his own good or for a reason that is up to me? You are a reasonable parent, I know this, and I know that you do not want to direct the course of your child's life into a profession or a life that he did not choose himself, but it is easy to be deceived and think that you know better than him, and you may think that you are building choices on what is in his interest, but even in this case You may not be right.
Your job as a father - as I always say - is broader than the role of a teacher; You are not teaching your child chemistry or English, you are teaching him life skills, and that includes decision-making, and if you don't let him do it himself, you're not helping him.
The amazing thing is that I did not become a forester or an artist. Rather, I worked in many fields until I settled down and became a writer. I have a friend who was having trouble choosing between studying Russian or Latin, and now runs an employment agency. I also know two people with degrees in chemistry; One is a successful investor banker, the other is a successful clown (yeah, honestly) I even know someone who is now seventy-two years old, who left school at the age of fifteen to become a customs officer, and then completed his studies at the age of sixty to obtain a degree in law And he becomes a lawyer.
As you can see, our choices can influence the course our lives take, but it doesn't have to be the impact we expect. So maybe you should give your child the chance to study the material he wants. And if you give him the confidence and skills he needs during the growth phase, he will be able to transform any study options or choices results into a career path that he loves, and he will be happy with that.
You have to support him in his decisions, even if you doubt they are the right choice.
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